no” in your vocabulary, then it ceases to be kindness and becomes emotional exhaustion.
8. Trust your gut, not just their “good days”
Don’t be fooled by the fact that they treated you nicely last Tuesday. Instead, take into account the bigger picture. Every single time after you finish talking with them, if you walk away feeling as though you’ve been run over by a bus – tired, worried, or even just “small” – this is your red flag.
Having good moments occasionally should not be the ticket out of a
